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Lanky Goes Forth ! Reflections

With D-Day fast approaching I find myself  reflecting on the last 3 years in what can only be described as an “Incredible” period in the Life of LankyBritt . There have been many up`s and tho it`s not been totally a perfect path the down`s have been few in number.

What we had here at first  was an “Internet Relationship” Two people falling for each other separated only by the void between their two internet connected PC`s. At first that’s all that was needed it was good enough at that time it was all dandy .. However as the relation ship grew so did the realization that the void was actually 3,800 miles worth of void with an awful lot of water in too ,  Living in the same country would have been a good start but half a world apart, 5 hour time difference all makes for a very not ideal start for any relationship.

So as to the question “Do INTERNET RELATIONSHIPS Work ?” I feel very qualified to answer so here is my Opinion.  First off the obvious answer is Yes they can but in reality most fail . Most fail before  the very first make or break factor even happens . They never get to meet in real life. Starting off as friends without any idea of having a relationship, talking sharing your most inner thoughts ,discussing your skeletons, laying your life bare as it were, your fears hopes and aspirations is what I think helped myself and D`Ma get where we are today , It’s not easy by any stretch tho .. It wasn’t until we first met that I was 100% sure that we had at least a slim chance and that I was happy to go forward .  Spending that first visit with D`Ma cemented the bond between us for me it was a very special and significant time .. IT CERTAINLY DIDN’T BREAK US .

We have had a couple of make or break events where either one of us could have said Game Over , but our respect understanding for each other as basic human beings to start with, both wanting the same things, Understanding a partnership means equality , has helped us move forward resolve issues and come out stronger .. I`M not afraid to say I`v e learned  much from D`Ma about myself that I can only thank her for .

The hardest part had to be the Visa process , The waiting , The fears of refusal, The whole process caused us both a great deal of stress and frustration , That time alone would see the end to a lot of relationships in my opinion but we both look back now and think how hard we made it on ourselves but we never blamed each other we did what we had to do to pull each other thru the hard

My worst month was definitely May .. THAT MONTH WENT ON FOR EVER and ever and ever , My patients have never been so tortured n tested .. I was craving June  to begin sooo badly as I wanted to give my months notice to My employer that I was leaving at end of June. Every day for the whole period of our visa application I would get questions  from work mates .. any news yet .. when ya going … I`m sure they must have thought I was making it all up.

I am now here tho at this point D-Day +3  Two weeks left at work 3 week before I depart Excited , Hungry ,Eager definitely, fear,reservations,anxiety not a shred … BRING IT FRIGGIN ON !

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Future Shock

In just under four weeks today I leave this country to embark on a life with my Fiance, She lives 3,800 miles away in the good ole land of the USA . It wont be totally alien to me as I`ve been over there a couple of times to visit her,and they all speak English , So it can`t be that difficult , Rite ?

The closer I get to that eagerly awaited date, the more I find myself trying to foresee,predict and plan for the imminent CULTURE SHOCK that I`m about to receive as an immigrant in a foreign land ..The Language Barrier has to be the obvious starting place because English English IS NOT American English. I come from West Country Rural England , yep a carrot cruncher as we are fondly referred as . Now us carrot crunchers have have our distinct form of English with phrases such as ” Ow be on young-un” and ” Gizza Pint Love” not to mention “Anybody got a spare fag”. Any of these will in the very least result in a blank looking face as a response .. “wheres the bog mate?” ” I wanna take a slash” .. So there’s the first issue right there. Now I was being a little tongue in cheek with those examples but I really am going to have to learn to speak American English and in all in tense and purpose become an American .

Out Goes  toilet , crapper and bog ,  In Comes restroom OR Bathroom.Out Goes bonnet ,boot and bumper In comes hood trunk and fender. No more petrol or Diesel its now Gas. it goes on ..

There are lots of other things of course Driving on opposite side of road .. That whole turn right at a red light, remembering to say your welcome , yes sir,yes m`am ..  Form filling, taxation., healthcare, the topic of religion, new customs and traditions, the way food is cooked, the law, my rights, clothing measurements, shoe sizing,  plugs n sockets, how do I fit a new plug,coffee machines, french fries, doughnuts,hotdogs, guns,armadillo`s,,snakes,,bugs,frigging alligators,rednecks n hillbillies,finding my way round, signals,signs, spelling ,terminology, the weather, heat, hurricanes,tornadoes,and so on.

I know its going to be a steep learning curve but its one I relish in taking on. It`s is a little daunting however it also very very exciting . I`m very much looking forward to the future and sharing my life with the soon to be Mrs LankyBritt..

Any suggestions  or advice will be greatly received thank you

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